The Why Behind Women Do:
When I first started writing I tried too hard to be someone who had it all together and what I found was that no one was interested in that. To be honest, I’m not interested in that and to be really honest I DO NOT have it all together. What I learned is that in order to reach anyone I had to be candid, not just about my hopes and dreams but also about my many failures. Keeping this in mind as this journey of the Women Do blog begins I want to make sure I start it off with full disclosure:
I fail, a lot. I get down on myself and fight insecurities more often then I would like to admit. I also believe in myself. These may sound like contradictions but it is my reality, one I think many of us exist in. Sure, I can judge myself too harshly on my appearance or not having all the answers and God knows when I screw up I feel the guilt of that but there is also this pull in me. One I have had for years, a path when looking back I can see leading me to this place. I believe we all have a path, each different, but none less important to share with this world. It is a path that exists when we work hard, pursue our passions and share our gifts with the world, even in the face of failure or judgment. I know every time you or I doubt ourselves we hinder our progress. I don’t want to do that anymore so I have been working on pushing my inner voices of judgment out. I try to remind myself that we live in a world that needs you and I to be our best, most authentic selves, if we are ever going to help make the changes it so desperately needs.
I don’t know exactly where my passion started but I know it continues to be ignited throughout my career. I have worked with many young women and it is apparent from an early age we start to expect perfection in ourselves. We start to pursue a life path we think we have to, not always the one we want to. The amount of time we spend judging not only ourselves but other females I have come to learn is where so many of us waste too much time. The young women’s journeys that I have been a part of along with my own have made me realize the things I want for all of us. I want all of us to live a life that is bold. One that makes us happy, fulfills us, and leaves us content. To know that there will be times that our wants and needs come before others and that it is OK. I want body shaming and self loathing to end. I want us to deal with our own insecurities so we don’t project them on to others. I want us to be open and honest with each other about the struggles we all face. To know our worth is not based on one singular thing. That we can be anything we want. To know there is nothing that can determine our ability to change our direction unless we let it. To know that we will make mistakes along this journey of life. That this journey will be scary. It will be frustrating. It will lead to failures and successes. It will be exciting. It will be fulfilling. Most importantly, it will be worth it. When we live out our passions, share our triumphs as well as our failures, and strive to make positive changes will create not only a better self, but also a better world.
Women do have so much to share, so much to give this world, and women do all these amazing things, even when the path isn’t always easy or clear. I just want to talk about it the best way I know how and right now that is through this space. Thank you for joining me, I look forward to the next chapter in my journey with you